Last week, my oldest son was having a particularly challenging day. Sure, when you’re raising two boys like I am, you’re bound to have some anger outbursts and overly dramatic yelling matches. But he was angry for seemingly no reason. The actual reason for the angry behavior was something small, but it wasn’t until almost a day later that he would explain why he was mad.
Whether you’re a first-time parent or a seasoned professional, there will always be times when your child has a volatile, anger outburst. It can be hard to figure out why they’re acting this way, especially if they’re too young to properly understand or explain their emotions. When your child is having a meltdown, it’s hard to know what to do in the moment.
What’s the root of their anger?
The first thing you need to figure out is the reason for their anger. Adults are able to understand their emotions and the reasons behind why they’re feeling a certain way—children can’t. Young children lash out
How to calm your child
If your child is repeatedly lashing out, and causing other children to be frightened or hurt, don’t be afraid to seek out professional help. There are a lot of pediatric behavioral therapy options out there that can help you and your child with proper anger management.
These professionals will also be able to discover an underlying reason that’s causing your child’s aggressive behavior. ADHD, anxiety, learning disabilities, sensory processing issues, and autism can often manifest themselves as anger issues before being properly diagnosed.
And remember, just because your child is having anger issues, that does not mean you’re a bad parent. Everyone has their bad days, and meltdowns are a part of being a child. As long as you are calm, confident, and consistent, you can help your child work through a meltdown and help them develop the skills to become more in tune with their emotions. This requires a lot of patience, but it will result in a happier child and healthier home in the long run.
Hi there, I'm Molly! I am a business owner and devoted mother to two boys, Lukas and Henry, and wife to my husband, Erik.